I am a coach who is helped a lot of people in my career. I have helped them find work, started receive businesses, had better relationships or improve themselves professionally as a result of our working with one another.
In other words, the people I helped received a lot of benefit from our working with one another.
Yet, try though I might, I was struggling with my weight.
Somehow, in the past 5 years, I put 30 pounds on. Generally, I was eating a healthy diet by US standards. I was in the gym 5 days a week, jogging between 20 and 40 minutes until injuries took a toll over the last year. I returned several months ago and started walking on a treadmill, eating properly, according to whatever diet I was following. The only thing that would happen was that a few pounds of water weight would disappear and then suddenly the weight would start to come back on.
One morning I got on the scale and saw numbers I never saw before and decided I needed to do something different. I hired a coach and, as I’ve told her on many occasions, I would outsource my thinking to her.
Kam, as I learned, is in her 50’s and doesn’t appear to have an ounce of fat on her. She is ex-Marine and ex-Coast Guard. She, like me, is no B. S..
She immediately told me to eat more but told me what to eat. She started training me in her club in Asheville and, as I’ve said many times, started beating the crap out of me. Two months later, I am down 18 pounds and beginning to look more like me. There’s plenty more to go but I’m seeing a solution that is working.
Somehow, in the United States and perhaps elsewhere. We developed the foolish idea that asking for help is a sign of weakness.
I said to myself many times, “I’m smart. I can figure this out,” but couldn’t. Maybe, you are like me in that regard.
In addition, somewhere along the line as adults. We’ve gotten the ridiculous idea that we should, “take it easy.” So we stopped pushing ourselves. We stop being bold and doing bold things. We stopped taking actions that we know we should take and scale them back by half.
We get lazy, but don’t think we are. We get mentally flabby and stop pushing ourselves.
Whether it is in the gym, in your work, in your job search, in your relationships, or other areas, people need to stop applying willpower to problems and, like me, start to outsource some of their thinking to someone who has a different perspective on the problem.
If becoming an expert requires 10,000 hours of focused effort under the supervision of an expert, in most areas, we are incredibly deficient.
Great athletes all have coaches. Successful singers and entertainers do, as well. You probably hire someone to do your taxes for you, a contractor to oversee construction in your home and other experts. Yet, in your career and job search, you decide to learn by trial and error and figure it out as you go along. Does that seem smart to you?
We all have blind spots.
Career coaching can make a huge difference to you in your search, and in your career options.
Maybe, just maybe, instead of blowing an opportunity or never seeing it altogether, someone can coach you into that new role and help you avoid making mistakes that will prove so costly to you and give you so much disappointment.
© The Big Game Hunter, Inc. Asheville, NC 2016
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